You may feel comfortable kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. Deciding whether you want to have sex or when you should is a decision you should make when it feels right for YOU. At times, this elevation is a good and enjoyable thing, but sometimes it makes a difficult situation worse.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous.
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When you take a date home after a good night out, you might have certain expectations about what should happen next. But when you and your date don't have the same expectations, that's where things become potentially dangerous. Because of various societal factors, many of us are conditioned to believe that trying to convince someone to have sex with you is the norm, or that there are certain sexual favors someone "owes" you after a date.
There's a lot of pressure on women — both from ourselves and sometimes our partners — to meet certain expectations in and around the bedroom. And with so many expectations hovering over us, a lot of women aren't having as much fun in bed as they should be having. Not all the below categories apply to every woman, because obviously we're all different, but these are some common things unfairly expected of women in the bedroom.
There is nothing like sleeping with someone for the first time, the anticipation, the anxiety and that awkward feeling that maybe you might just live to regret this one. Reality: You are being invited over to watch back-to-back boxsets and stay firmly in the friend zone. Reality: You feel tired ten minutes after getting into bed and wonder if it is too soon to go to sleep.
Studies have shown that with good communication and boundaries, friends with benefits arrangements can work, but the scenarios almost inevitably turn complicated over time. But not everyone is cut out to compartmentalize sex like that. Conversely, maybe sleepovers and brunch the next day is totally cool with both of you.
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